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A man’s evolution can only happen when he begins to cultivate a true sense of masculinity that is related to who he is as an individual. Reinventing the masculine identity is not making yourself more feminine; rather, it is striving to become you. Viewing yourself in an inverse relationship with femininity will not change a thing. [Emphasis Mine] Alec A @ http://thefbomb.org/2010/10/redefining-masculinity/
I really dislike generalizations and stereotypes. Most of us recognize generalizations paint too wide a picture and inhibit understanding of the individual or group being generalized. While, once in a while, they are handy as a basic survival tool, we get trapped in them. One of the traps is the us/them, right wrong aspects of them. Generalizations often assume opposites are the truth and nothing can exist in the middle.
"Men are the opposite of women."
"Men are from Mars... "
"All that guys want is sex."
"She must be part guy because of how she goes for sex."*
"Unless it is a competition, men wont care."
Men are not entirely the opposite of women. We are all multi-dimensional universes with each direction having its own spectrum of behavior. Many of these dimensions have nothing to do with gender. It is our place on each dimension spectrum that defines who we are. As a man, some of those are gender based and they make me who I am. I am not the opposite of women, nor the same. I am Karl and I am the man I am and there are none exactly like me.
* A woman told me this about her friend and colleague who is married, has an open relationship, and told her she has made out with a few colleagues.
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